Tips for Understanding Your Client's Sexual Needs

A professional escort must have excellent social and communication skills, among others. Understanding the sexual (and non-sexual) needs of clients is crucial if you want to have a successful career as an escort. Some clients don't know how to express themselves, or they are shy, so your job is to read between the lines, make them feel comfortable and lead them to reveal to you as much as possible about their sexual needs, boundaries, preferences and desires.

We at Escort Rankings know that the key to any successful relationship is communication and understanding your clients and the market. We are more than happy to share some tips to help you better understand your clients' (sexual) needs.

Ask the Client to Be Honest

Experienced escorts usually can connect the dots and read between the lines to better understand their clients' needs, but sometimes all you need to do is ask. Remind your client how important it is for him to be honest about his sexual needs and preferences to get the experience he wants. After all, you are not a mind reader.

Tell him that nothing is taboo, and there is no need for him to be shy or restrained. Try to make him feel comfortable and at ease. If you talk openly, there won't be any doubts or question marks hanging between the two of you. This is a perfect recipe for happy and satisfied clients.

Engage in the Conversation

An escort's profession is everything but passive. Engaging in conversation is one of the most important things for an escort, and we are not talking only during a date but also during a booking. If you set yourself up as a passive listener, it could make the client feel uncomfortable, and there is less chance he will be completely open and honest about his needs.

If you are engaged in conversation, he will feel that you care and you want to provide him with the best experience possible, and it will encourage him to be open and honest. That's all you need to understand his sexual needs and desires.

Find Out His Likes and Dislikes

To better understand someone's needs and preferences, it's best to know both sides of the coin, likes and dislikes (do's and don'ts). Understanding someone's sexual needs is not a simple task, but with some experience and few quality tips, you'll manage it without difficulties. Of course, every person is unique, so you should make slight differences and fine-tune your approach.

If you know what he doesn't like, you'll know what to avoid, and it will narrow down the options. Body language is a big part of sexual communication. If you pay attention, it will be your best guide and it will help you understand his likes and dislikes.

Special requests can give you a hint. Did he ask you to tell him your shoe size? Might be a clue for a foot fetish. Did he ask you to wear a specific costume, like a schoolgirl or a naughty secretary? This means he likes to be more dominant.

Maybe he wanted to see you in a gown or elegant evening dress? He likes confident, elegant and mysterious women. Black lipstick, black dress and corset? Goth girlfriends are a trend, so he might want to live this fantasy with you. Questions are a pool of information if you know how to recognize them. 

Be a Good Listener But Don't Forget to Ask Questions

Don't be afraid to ask questions. It's all in your favour, and you must gain as much information as possible so you can do your job properly and professionally. Use guided and open-ended questions. Sex means different things to different people, so leave nothing to assumptions.

It's best to avoid guessing, but if you must, search for clues and hints. When you ask him a question, listen carefully to his answers. Sometimes small things like the change of tone in his voice, word choice, body language or some small ticks will tell you more than you might think.

Every client will ask you questions, whether it is about your services, terms, boundaries, your escort profile, pictures and looks, or something else. His questions will reveal to you his needs and preferences. Pay close attention to what he says and not only will you better understand his sexual needs, boundaries, preferences and desires, but you will give the impression of being professional and trustworthy.

His Experience Matters

Knowing if your client is new to visiting escorts can give you some much-needed information about him. When people try new things, usually, they are reserved. If your client is new to this, the best way to understand him and his sexual needs will be for you to adjust your approach. Sound confident but not stuck up, add the sweet note to your voice, especially while talking about sex.

Give the customer more information about you, and he will reciprocate. Gain his trust, read his body language and play on the powerful card of social skills. He will feel more confident and relaxed to talk about his wishes. New clients can stay on the vanilla side, but also can ask for some kinky services. Stay positive and kind even if you don't provide all services he asks for. 

Experienced clients mostly know what they want even before they contact you. They probably already studied your profile, and know what you can provide. Using their experience, they will know if you are the right escort for them just by looking at your profile and reviews and hearing your voice.

There is a greater chance they will put their sexual fantasies into words and be bald about what they expect. In this case, if the client is open and certain of what he wants, give him straightforward answers and keep him engaged in conversation. 

Whether they're a newbie or a veteran, a client needs to feel relaxed and at ease in your company to reveal his genuine wishes. Communication will be easier and you will both enjoy more knowing what the other party expects and likes. It will also be easier to set boundaries.

Always Prefer a Call vs Message

Whenever it comes to clear communication and avoiding misunderstandings, talking in person or over a phone call is the best way of communication. Chatting over messages or emails with someone you don't know personally can lead to many misunderstandings. Even if we have emojis to help us express our feelings, they can't replace human voice and direct communication.

A phone call will allow you to hear the customer's voice and your experience will come in handy - you will be able to relax him, make him talk more about his wishes and finally create a closer bond with him right away. You will also understand better what he wants. He might feel uncomfortable asking about some kinks, but you will be there right away to encourage him and give him insight into your experience and expertise.

The client might also feel more relaxed not leaving a written proof of his kinks and special wishes, so he might write in codes while messaging or emailing. This can result in a misunderstanding of their preferences. 

Stay in Touch With the Escort Community

Learning from experience is the best way to improve and grow. But hearing about other people's experiences, learning from their success and mistakes will add to your personal growth. By staying connected with the community, you will learn more about types of clients, their desires, expectations, and how to understand them better.

Another pool of useful information and answers to many questions you might have is our website Escort Rankings with genuine escort reviews from real customers giving you direct insight into their experiences. For example, reading Vancouver escort reviews (or some other major city) will give you an excellent panorama of different client's experiences, their impressions about escorts and the way other escorts lead pleasure business.