How to Set Boundaries in Your Personal Relationships As an Escort

Boundaries are present in every relationship — from parents, siblings, friends, to colleagues. These boundaries help you to be "You" in the relationship and maintain mutual respect, protection, and support for one another.

It is important to set clear boundaries in all your personal relationships, but it is simply mandatory for romantic relationships. Often, people get so emotionally invested in relationships, that they cross some boundaries — intentionally or unintentionally, which can suffocate their partner's personal space. 

For escorts, it might be even more important to set clear boundaries in relationships. Because your line of work is different and demanding, it can make your partner jealous. 

Therefore, you should set some boundaries before things get too serious in your relationship. In this post, you will learn about important relationship boundaries and how to properly set them. So, let's get started. 

Healthy Vs. Unhealthy Relationship Boundaries 

Escorts, before setting boundaries in your relationship, you need to understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationship boundaries. When you are setting boundaries to protect yourself, it is healthy. But when you start controlling or dictating your partner in the name of boundaries, it is wrong. 

As per James Preece, dating coach, "Everyone has their own space and comfort level when it comes to boundaries." So, while setting your personal relationship boundaries, don't forget to consider other people's space and comfort. 

Now, there's a very blurred line between healthy and unhealthy relationship boundaries. That's why people often fail to differentiate between the two. So, here let's try to understand both boundaries with examples. 

"I don't like you spending time with your friends without me. It makes me jealous, so you aren't allowed to go out anywhere without me."

"I love you, and I want you to have fun with your friends too. So, try to come home soon so we can spend some quality time together."

We think it's pretty clear which one represents a healthy boundary in the examples above.. In the first statement, one person is trying to force his or her opinion on their partner, which is a violation of personal space. On the contrary, in the second statement, a person is simply stating his or her feelings without being pushy or needy, which is totally healthy. 

So, whether you are setting boundaries or your partner, you have to make sure that neither you are disrespecting each other's personal space. 

What Type of Personal Boundaries Should You in Relationships?

If you wish to receive top Ottawa escort reviews while enjoying a blissful personal relationship, in that case, you have to set the right boundaries in your relationship. Some of the common boundaries that your relationship needs are:

Physical boundaries 

Physical boundaries are related to your personal space, body, and privacy. For example, if you aren't comfortable with public displays of affection, you should set this straight with your partner right from the beginning. 

For outcall escorts, it is important to set some physical boundaries because they often have to go out with their clients. They have to tell their partners they can't visit certain restaurants or attend events with them because they can't be seen there. Also, if you can't go on a date with your partner after spending a night with your clients, you should set this boundary too. 

Emotional boundaries 

Emotional boundaries are very important for escorts, especially if you offer highly intimate services like a girlfriend experience. You need to define how much emotional support you expect from your partner. 

Imagine if you are upset about a client who has requested a discount or extra time on the spot, and you want to vent this to your partner. But here, you only want your partner to listen to you, not demand you never see that client again. 

You need to tell your partner — I want you to be there for me and listen to me when I am low, but you aren't allowed to fix my problems because I am a grown woman who can handle her life. 

Work boundaries 

For escorts, it is essential to set work boundaries to build a strong personal relationship. Foremost, the work boundary that escorts should set is to never discuss work with their partners. No matter how understanding your partner is, no boyfriend wants that your client asked for a PSE or a GFE today or listen about how they took you to a gala event. 

Discussing your work will unnecessarily make your partner jealous, which isn't good for your personal relationship. So, make it a rule not to attend any work-related calls or discuss any topic that can lead to your work while being with your partner. 

Similarly, you should not reveal too much info about your clients to your partner. Every escort has to evaluate whether she is comfortable sharing any information about the clients with the partner.

Usually, it is recommended to disclose as minimal information as possible with your partner. However, if you are going out with a new client for the first time, for safety purposes, you can share your location with your partner. Besides that, it's better to keep your client's identity discreet. 

Also, you should make sure that your partner doesn't have a say in how much you charge your clients, how you invest your escort money, and for how long you should book clients. In short, your partner should have no say in how you manage your clients. 

Personal boundaries 

If you want to keep your personal and professional relationship separate while maintaining your mental sanity, save some time for yourself after a date with a client and before you meet your partner. Tell your partner that you will contact them once you are back from work, and they should not bother you till then. 

Setting personal boundaries helps you from getting out of your escort role before facing reality. Plus, escorts require proper physical and mental rest to maintain personal and professional life simultaneously.

Things to Keep in Mind When Setting Boundaries

So, escorts, now you know what type of boundaries to set in your relationships. The next step is how to set boundaries so that it won't sound offensive to your partner:

Start early 

The best time to introduce boundaries in your relationship is right from the beginning. That's because once both partners are emotionally invested in the relationship and a routine is formed, setting boundaries will get harder without hurting one another's feelings. 

Therefore, the moment you disclose to your partner that you are an escort — you should also share personal and professional boundaries that you wish to maintain. For instance, if you don't want your partner to interfere in your career choices, clarify it in the beginning.  

Unfortunately, if you missed setting relationship boundaries in the beginning, it's not too late now. But you have to do it a bit sensibly as you both are too emotionally invested right now. 

Communicate frequently 

Communication is the key to nourish and flourish your relationship. No matter how hard it is for you to talk about your feelings, you should always talk openly with your partner. 

In fact, research stated that couples who express their emotions openly are more satisfied in the relationship. Plus, when you freely communicate with your partner, you can tell them things that you don't like in your relationship and where you wish to set boundaries. 

You won't realize that sometimes, your partner also wants the same thing, but is just hesitating to share it with you. So, always keep the doors of communication open in your relationship. 

Start the conversation with I 

There is an old saying — it's not what you say, it's how you say it. You see, ladies, your intention might be right, but if your choice of words isn't right, it can offend your partner and create a rift in your relationship. 

Therefore, the best practice here is to start a conversation about how you feel rather than using accusing your partner of doing or not doing something. This will sound accusing and controlling, which nobody likes, and triggers defensive emotions. 

And once your partner gets into a defensive mood, no matter what you say or try, they won't listen to you. So, here let's take a small example:

Right: I felt really bad when you called me while I was on a date with my client. 

Wrong: You always call me when I am on a date with my clients, which I don't like. 

Keep your consciousness clear

Girls, there's nothing wrong with asking for some space in your relationship. You don't have to feel guilty for setting personal boundaries in your relationship. It's alright to not share your financial, professional, or personal stuff with your partner. It's your life and your relationship, so you can lead it any way you want. Never feel upset or ashamed for setting relationship boundaries. 

Having boundaries is good for you, your partner, and for you both as a couple. IT will help you establish and maintain a healthy relationship. For more advice on relationships, you can refer to the Escort Rankings blog.